(Sober) Reflections 

I caught my reflection in the mirror, on my way to the bathroom, and I smiled at myself.

It was such an impulsive thing to do.

It was a sweet, somewhat flirty smile.

When I thought of how significant such a random act was, I gave thanks.

Thanks to God Almighty. Thanks to every one in my life.

It may seem like a very simple act, but it’s on these little signs that I am convinced that I self-love.

I pondered how my life would be if I looked in the mirror and hated what I saw.

To be sure I wasn’t wallowing in vanity, I went back to the mirror to stare intently at myself.

Observe and study the obvious imperfections of my reflection.

My braids are only a week old and still glorious. Repping every Naira and time that went into their existence.

My face was bare. Make-up free (as a result of laziness and convenience ) in spite of my Fancy February resolve.

All the scars from pimples past were ably represented and uncovered.

All the budding acne present were regretting showing up on my face because the lady never learnt how to not squeeze.

The blackheads underskin were shrinking from the dryness of my “I forgot to moisturise” skin.

My eyes were hiding behind my glasses.

My lips were a little chapped because I already licked off the balm applied earlier.

It was a really basic appearance, but I loved myself enough to be excited to catch my reflection.

I light myself up and that is proof that my happiness is dependent on me. There is absolutely no need to sustain toxic relationships if they would make me dislike the person I see in the mirror.

I have been trying to lose weight, especially in the belly region (😖) and struggling, but it doesn’t make me unappreciate myself.

Beauty standards and appearance as accepted by society exist for correction. Not to be enforced on unwilling participants, hence the feeling of failure they feel when they come across their reflection.

There are a couple of ways I want to end today’s post ~

1. Do you.

If it makes you happy, it can’t be that bad-Sheryl Crow, 1999

2. Self love is not selfishness.

You can’t love nobody until you love you, so when you do love somebody you know what to do. – Murphy Lee, 2003

3. Charity begins at home.

I’m starting with the man in the mirror, I’m asking him to change his ways. And no message could have been any clearer;if you wanna make the world a better place, take  look at yourself, and then make a change. – Michael Jackson, 1987

I assume you get my gist at this point.

Peace out! ✌



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